I don’t understand why there are some women who makes marriage as a business or being in a relationship with an expat is a way of living or way to go to a greener pasture. Don’t they have anything better to do with their lives?
I find these common with young Filipinas. I find it funny that they even have a dating site just to find a man from other country and then basically if they like each other the foreigner would fly to Philippines and take her hand for marriage and bring her to whatever country he came from. Viola! That easy, you make a profile online then it will change the course of your life in a snap. In a matter of 3 to 4 months you’ll change your last name and your citizenship. No sweat.
Well its just sad. Some women are taking the risk of selling their youth to a marriage they dont even have any idea of. And for one reason..to live in a greener pasture. But are they even sure if he is the right one or are they just blinded by the fact that this man will be the answer to their everything. Like everything.
Im a filipina too.. 25 yrs of age and yes my boyfriend is a local of Norway where im currently based, but that doesn’t change the plans i have for myself. I didn’t arrived here because of him. I did not cross the pacific ocean and the equator just to meet him. I came here for my own plans and dreams. For myself. I came here to work. To work for my goals. And its just a bonus that I met him. But I never intend or planned it. And its a bit funny and annoying, everytime I come across these women who are apparently in a relationship with someone they just met thru a dating site, for they will bombard you with rather personal questions. Questions that are some what related on how you met the guy and your status in a foreign country. Its like.. come on girl?! Just wtf. Dont you have any other appropriate questions for an acquiantance???
But anyhow my point is, i hope that these women dont make the mistake of marrying somebody they dont even love or know yet.
There are other ways of reaching your goals and your personal dreams, work for it. Success is much sweeter if you work for it. If you strive hard for yourself and not just depend on somebody. And love? Love is the best thing you can ever have.. dont make it a business. Love yourself first. Have pride and dignity. Once you do, these men, no matter what nationality they came from they will come after you. Because you have that thing, that edge among other women. Because you are empowered. Not by them but by yourself, by your goals and your achievements. And lastly have high respect for marriage. . Remember its a holy matrimony. You are binded by God to that person for the rest of your life. Its not money or citizenship that binds you. Because whatever relationship it is if you dont have Jesus in it, it will not work.